Does any of this sound familiar?
- I am sick, have cancer or a disease
- I don’t have good relationships with my friends or family
- I can’t find a good boyfriend/girlfriend/spouse
- I can’t get out of debt
- I can’t find a satisfying job
- I feel stuck
When things go wrong over and over in our lives we need to look at a couple very important things: What am I doing to cause this? How can I stop it? Because the truth is that nothing shows up in our life unless we put it there. Everything happening TO us was created BY us. And it is created solely by our beliefs.
Everywhere you look it seems that people are saying “Just change your beliefs. Your beliefs are holding you back. Everything that happens to you happens because of your beliefs”. Ok, ok! We heard you! You make it sound so easy! But HOW do we do this?
We know that our beliefs are what keep us in this “holding pattern”, but maybe we aren’t sure exactly what they even are. They are so ingrained in our being that they aren’t obvious to us. We just live every day with them on auto pilot and which every thought and reaction we have is based. We need to call them out, one by one, and address them. So how do you uncover them? How do you know what they are when they are buried so deep?
Ask yourself these three questions. These questions will help you expose your beliefs so you can begin to make the choice to change them. I will use the first instance above as an example for each one, but if that is not your issue then substitute yours instead.
1) What am I more committed to?
Example: Am I more committed to being healthy or being sick?
This is an easy one; however you may not like the answer. If you are sick then the answer is that you are more committed to being sick.
Example: Why am I more committed to being sick?
Is being sick easier than being well? Does it garner me the love and attention that I crave? Do I deserve to be sick? Has it become my identity and who I am?
That is where you will start to discover what beliefs are behind all this madness! You will definitely spend the most time on this question because there will be many different beliefs that will arise to your awareness. Keep drilling down on these questions/answers until you can remember the first time you believed them, when they first became your truth. You may determine that these were made when you were so young you didn’t know any better, or that you had no choice at that time. But you do have a choice what to believe NOW. And just because you have believed these things all your life, that doesn’t mean you have to live one more minute still believing them. Reword them into more empowering beliefs and repeat these to yourself daily until it replaces the old belief. Example: I deserve to be sick could become I deserve to be healthy!
3) What would my life look like if this wasn’t happening?
Example: What would my life look like if I wasn’t sick? What if you had not a trace of disease of any form in your body? What would you be doing? How would you feel? How would your life be different than it is now?
See and actually feel every aspect. See how you look, what are you wearing? How is your hair styled? When you feel it, are you able to do activities that you aren’t able to do now? How does it feel to be doing these things?
Really put yourself there – use your imagination to see and feel every detail. Then ask yourself the first question again – what am I more committed to? Did the old commitment lose some of its power? Do you feel excited to change it? Can you keep the image of what your life would look like in your scope of vision daily? This will provide you with the control and authority you need in your life to make the changes needed to permanently change your belief(s) in this area and to completely change your life!
Maybe you have more than one issue mentioned above or perhaps some that weren’t even mentioned. I said maybe, but you know I’m kidding! We all have a few things that need some adjustment in our lives so we can live healthy, abundantly and happy! So go through these questions with each topic, maybe one a week, and see how your life changes for the better!
After all, we aren’t here to struggle, we are here to have everything we desire and live a life of joy! Doesn’t that just sound Divine? Oh yeah, it is!
Did this article stir you in some way? Please leave comments and questions below, I would LOVE to hear from you!
This is wonderful Laura! Thank you for helping humanity.
Really good information here and how your mind and attitude have such an impact on ones life. Love your energy and inspiring words!
This is just exactly what I needed to read this morning. I’m feeling activated by how much you can manifest in your life by working with your thoughts, by talking to yourself in the mirror, by thinking of how to craft just the right phrase to resound inside you. Thanks Laura!
I really didn’t want my foot to heal. I was enjoying being home from work. You are so right.
That is a great point Bren! And if we need rest or to slow down that is what the Universe provides, sometimes whether we realize we choose it or not! LOL!
Laura: I am appreciative of your perspective, but the idea that I caused my autoimmune disorder by my belief-system or lack-there-of was one of the most destructive, painful, and errant opinions I came across seven years ago when I was diagnosed. It hurt so badly that I am compelled to respond to this post which I ran across merely on accident.
There are a multitude of ways we interact with the universe and also ways it acts upon us. We control a percentage of our lives and have no control over a large percentage. To say we bring disease and unhappiness upon ourselves is tantamount to saying those in German Concentration Camps deserved what happened to them. I am certain you must not believe that- but that is exactly what you are saying in this post. Words are very powerful, and so is the act of healing. I would ask that you meditate and reconsider this belief that you are propagating. Everything that happens to you does not happen “because you deserve it.” Wonderful people have died in horrible ways throughout history- that does not mean they brought it upon themselves.
Oh my gosh Andrea, I am so sorry that my post came across so negatively to you. My goal in life is to empower people to break through their illness/disease and live meaningful, fulfilling lives. The pain you experienced reading my post hurts my heart. I am truly sorry!
I would never say anyone deserves pain, illness or even death. I don’t believe anyone “deserves” anything horrible to happen to them (and I also don’t believe that death is horrible). Sometimes our belief systems have US believing we deserve something and this is just not true. I work to help people bust through their hidden beliefs and put that in perspective. And I do believe that the majority of illness/disease can be alleviated by doing that. That we deserve illness or anything bad in our lives is only one of many hidden beliefs that a lot of us hold without even realizing it. Our beliefs can and do cause us real pain on every level – physically, emotionally and spiritually.
The Concentration Camps is a whole other topic and doesn’t even belong in this conversation in my opinion, and there is no way I would ever imply that it does.
I stand by my post and I disagree with your statement that we have no control over a large percentage of our lives. In my heart, and in my entire being, I believe that we DO control every aspect of our lives. Sometimes we just don’t realize the control and power that we do have. You are a beautiful, magnificent woman and you are here for a very definite reason. Don’t let your illness stop you in your journey.
I would like to suggest a book to you that may help you in your healing. It is called Dying To Be Me by Anita Moorjani. It is a beautiful true story and is a great stepping stone into understanding illness and death in a new and loving way.
Sending you love and light!